Hi All,
Since I have started to work with ladies intensely on romantic relationships, I share the love and pain of many all across Turkey, especially Istanbul. My phone and my e-mail are constantly active. I cannot express with words how big a treasure this is to me. I thank each and every one of you. I love all of you very much and we accomplished a whole lot together. Since I work as a relationship strategist, I would like to share with you the knowledge I accumulated in a field I have never been wrong.
DID YOU EVER HAVE ONLINE ROMANCE?
Did you ever experience an MSN or Facebook romance? Some of them can be extremely beautiful and real, but this is for the most part stringent on both parties being mighty individuals. Otherwise they become short-term, sex-oriented, fruitless relationships that I see many examples of.
Dear ladies, you must ensure the man you are dealing with is 'mighty.' If you cannot discern this, you start leaving your strength aside and suffering. But what is real might? What does it mean that a male or female is mighty? That he has money? That he has career? Warrior spirit? Business success?
WHERE DOES A MAN'S MIGHT COME FROM?
Did you know that none of the above is the source of true might? But when you find the real thing, the guy most probably has money and success. These are the features that come with true might.
If women can't discern this true might and are mistaken, they enter into a terrible suffering period soon, since they have already gotten emotionally attached and even if their reason tells them that this is not the right guy, their hears don't accept it. The pain and suffering comes from the different tendencies between the heart and the mind. Emotions move much slower than our brain. Sometimes, even if we know that we are in pain, we can't give up the relationship. We would have to go subconscious deep to strip ourselves from that relationship and be very decisive and eager at that.
WHEN WOMEN GET EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED TO A WEAK AND WRONG MAN, THEY BECOME VULNERABLE TO PAIN
I've been realizing recently that due to lifestyles and many other factors, the number of places where men and women can meet have become limited. For that reason, the internet has become a preferred meeting arena. However, a majority of the online romance fails to go further than the virtual space. No matter how good it starts, human soul and repressed fears end up surfacing, and what has begun nicely comes to a nasty end.
Men may show great affection for the first few months. They say nice things and when finally sex comes along, many women start to think that they found what they have been looking for. Many people even told me on the phone, 'I had found my soulmate. But now he is drifting away from me and I'm in pain.' And is there such a thing as a soulmate? Let's say there is, how many soulmates can we have in a lifetime? I give lengthy answers to this questions in my workshops. We need to take a good look at how we fall in love with the men whom we consider our 'soulmates.'
In my subconscious-related work, I observed that many men act out of fear. They seem to be unaware of what they want. In the first few months they offer the perfect relationship, then they try to run like there is no tomorrow. Every person has a threshold of fear. This threshold may be seen as a border mark. The border is determined according to the patterns we have. Until we get to that border, we don't fear the relationship and we live it fully. But when we get to the border mark, we start going awry. We lose our balance point. We are no longer affectionate, and a fearful and capricious kid instead.
Women find the idea of attachment to a man and belonging to him very attractive. Can we lean on a man and belong to him when we are able to stand on our own two feet? All of these are possible. Because, a woman who cannot stand on her own fears loneliness, therefore cannot let herself go to the point of belonging to her man. On top of all this, if she has fallen in love with the wrong guy, she is bound to suffer - she desperately needs this attention and love.
Ladies, look into your hearts. Think about your childhood. Take note of whether, in your life, you are just as happy on your own when you close your door. Do you NEED love, or do you already have an abundant supply of it and you just want love to BECOME ONE with the right man? Do you think it's GETTING A LITTLE LATE because of your age? Is your biological clock ticking and tocking? Can you trust men? Answer all these questions only when you're all by yourself. Don't let anybody find out, just know yourself. It's nobody else's business, but if you want serious changes to happen in your life, you need to be honest with yourself.
A REAL WOMAN DETERMINES THE BEGINNING AND THE END OF A RELATIONSHIP
They say, 'you can't trust men anymore. We don't even trust our fellow ladies anymore.' Many women who wish to make a man commit to her try to go about this by opening up her body to him before she is actually ready. They also secretly nurture the fear, 'if I can't meet his sexual needs, another woman will, and his attention will go to that woman. I lose.'
However, a real woman is the determinant of both the man and the relationship. The woman determines the end of the relationship from the very first day. Unfortunately, we do this so unconsciously that our fears surface up and we start to live out our fears in every relationship. A real woman, if she wants love, chooses a mighty man and programs her relationship to love. She acts according to her nature. If only we could love and own up to the female emotion and tendencies we have that we constantly judge in our subconscious, we will always create the right relationships.
And most importantly, we will be able to take the relationship we have into its highest potential.
Isn't this nice? It sounds like a fairy tale. But it's the reality itself. It's only that the values of womanhood are pushed from the society's memory into oblivion. The knowledge that is supposed to be passed on from the mother to the daughter are erased out of memory. I would like to reiterate that I don't mean womanhood or sexuality when I say 'femininity' - there is a completely different set of traits to it. But the most important among these traits is the capability to pick the right man.
Yes, true femininity is the ability to pick the right man for yourself. This man differs from woman to woman. It is never related to his career success or warriorship. The most important feature of him is his might. True might comes from self-confidence. And men who have been able to erase out their fears about women or his role thereof have self-confidence. Only then a man will be able to love his woman unconditionally and he will fully open himself to her with complete surrender.
I repeatedly teach this in my tantra training. When a man and a woman become one with each other spiritually, intellectially, emotionally and physically, they reach such a peak that, it becomes a whole another frequency. This is a wonderful flood of emotions that mankind has forgotten and is not accustomed to. First there has to be full mutual confidence. And each party should be bare-naked open with each other, revealing emotions. When this point has been reached, a man and a woman do not need physical bonding.
Don't be afraid by what I have just said. Because, when the magic of those moments has gone and you come back down to earth, the bodies become ready to meet. But when you are in that high point, all your body is busied with something different. Such a great energy flows that the body starts to heal potential or already present ailments. The cells begin to regenerate and rejuvenate. A man and a woman, in order to rise to this level that may simply put as a wonderful ecstacy and joy, have to give all their attention to each other. When other men, women or flirts get in the way, you can no longer go up to that level. Divided, the feelings lose their strength.
The true might of a man comes from his courage to give all his energy to one woman, the woman he loves. Only then he can achieve her unconditional respect, in fact. This holds true for her as well, but it's a whole another thing for a man, because when the man rises to an energy level so high, he may not have an erection - he may or may not. But at this point, none of them desire physical desire. It creates a much more perfected feeling when the emotional beings make love. A real woman can take her man up to the level she wants, and take him down. And the man should have the self-confidence to become one with his woman, surrendering himself to his feelings during these ups and downs. This is where the might of a man comes from.
If he already has this might, his self-confidence increases. He now knows what is true happiness and what is not. And when he finds the right woman, he reaches the capability to channel all his energy to one woman without diluting it. Mutual trust and peace come into the picture.
The bar raises so high that, neither the man nor the woman feel the need to look at other people. At the root of this lay the ability to emotionally rise to the tantric level. Because, there is no desire to physically unite there. In other words, it is not the only desire. Both sides discover that there are better pleasures.
This might even scare women away. They may start thinking that they will be dependent one just one man. Men have the same fear, too. But the truth is difference. If there is nothing any of the parties can get out of the relationship, both parties will give their blessings to each other. They will not be condemned to each other because of an interrupted ego satisfaction. And you always know that, after the relationship ends, if we can grow and cleanse inside ourselves, banish our fear and patterns, our next partner will be much better, we will be much more in love, and he will be the one who will make us fly.
I hope you all experience these feelings and leave your fears behind.
With love,
Seda Diker